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Love. The topic we all love to hate and hate to love..or even love to love, if you get what I mean.

Ok, enough with the cheesy-ness.

Lately I’ve been surrounded by people in love. A friend of mine is getting married next month, another in six months time, one just got engaged and my cousin’s in love with her baby boy whom she just gave birth to (and left me with tonnes of things to mark and a bunch of children, taller than me, to teach).

Love. Love. Love.

I understand what love is, but really, I don’t think my heart gets it. It’s like I can only feel love on the surface. Kinda like that whole love for my parents thing. Even my love for God……I mean, I obviously love Him cos He’s my Creator and He’s the Most Merciful and I pray because I love Him, but why do I think about other things when I’m talking to my Beloved. You know the feeling when you’re talking to someone and the person’s mind is just elsewhere? Yeah, that’s my conclusion on my prayers without khusyuk. It’s like I’m having this conversation with God (with God, mind you), but my mind is just elsewhere. That’s just whacked. I mean, if I truly, deeply love Him, then I’d be able to concentrate right?

Maybe I’m not loving God enough. Maybe I’m not loving my family and friends enough. Maybe I’m not loving the people who loves me enough. It’s kinda upsetting to realise this. All these while, I had thought that I’m a firm believer of love..that I’m all about love…hahh.

Oh Allah, please let us all believe, understand and feel love in our hearts. Please let us love You the most, and please love us and guide us to You. Amin.

So, I’ve been thinking about this whole thing, suddenly I stumbled upon this article on how you can find, fall and stay in love. Before all these questions about love in my head, I had actually ignored the article cos I thought it was bloody cheesy. But right now…hmm..

So, this was what I found:

LIKE SEEKS LIKE
Look for someone as much like you as possible, because chances are, he/she is looking for you too. We prefer mates with similar backgrounds, interests, values and beliefs because they can validate our own. We even gravitate towards people who look like us. Eminent scientist Sir Francis Galton drew attention to this phenomenon a century ago, and since then it has been confirmed by numerous studies on resemblances between spouses. [think TomKat].

DECLARE YOUR DESIRE
Ditch the strong and silent act because major turn-on according to social psychologist Dr Arthur Aron, is the simple realisation that someone fancies you. It makes you feel good abouty yourself, which, in turn, overflows into feeling good about them. We warm to those who flatter us and are nice to us.

There are 12 points but I just want to mention this two cos the rest are cheese with blood, seriously.

I like this one the best..it’s more of a ‘haha cheesy’, not so bloody:

NAMING GAME
Dr Albert Mehrabian of the University of California’s psychology department had discovered that many names – such as Darcy, Roxanne or Bertha – are linked with negative attributes. And if you share a first name with a well-known person, you’re considered to share their traits – bad news for people called Adolf, Homer or Saddam.

Haha..ok, fine..it’s not so cheesy.




You don’t know me enough.
You only know half a cup of a sea of me.